I became a single mom seven and a half years ago. I went on so many dates, had a couple serious relationships, and finally met the man that will be my side for the rest of our lives.
I wanted this so bad. I still want it and I’m not leaving it but can I just tell you guys, it’s harder than I thought it would be.
In a short eight months of living together and a very short one month of marriage, I feel like we’ve experienced ten years of marriage.
Job loss, health problems, trying to blend two families into one, searching for a home we can call ours. It’s been a lot.
I’m not running, I’m going to stick with this. But do you want to know why?
A couple years ago a friend of mine called to tell me that she was leaving her husband because he had kissed another woman.
I told her not to leave.
I reminded her that he was head over heels in love with her and their son, that she never had worry about getting thrown against a wall because he was angry, and he had made a mistake that, with help, they could work through. I told her she didn’t want the single parent life, that regardless of his mistakes, her marriage was far better than my life at that moment.
I love my husband, I love our family, but right now, those words I gave to my friend are my reminder to stay. To not run. This is not something we can’t work through and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we will be stronger after these trials.
Marriage is hard. And I know there are reasons to walk away from a relationship. I did. I walked away from being insulted, beaten, and torn apart.
But if it’s just life that’s pulling your marriage apart, you and your spouse CAN get through it. Make the choice to get through it.