Most mothers will tell you that from about four months after conceiving a baby it is wise to talk to your baby and start building that bond. I am not exempt from this rule. From the moment I knew Elizabeth could hear me, I talked to her constantly! I told her about my life and people that had a positive impact on me, I told her about my day, and about what life would be like after she arrived.
Now being pregnant with Colm, I practice those same methods. The biggest difference is that his daddy hasn’t been around due to his job so for a while, it was just mommy doing the talking. Now I’ve always talked about how intelligent my daughter is, however, a couple months ago she suddenly started using ‘baby talk’. This concerned me greatly because I had heard of toddlers regressing back to ‘babyhood’ with the impending arrival of a new baby. I thought for sure my daughter was doing exactly that. My mom quickly eased my fears and said that almost all children do this, and this is just Elizabeth’s way of preparing for Colm’s birth.
Several weeks later I still hadn’t convinced myself of this theory until one rainy afternoon. Elizabeth and I had been out running errands and were finally finished and heading home. I was cruising down Hampden, listening to the radio and feeling Colm roll from one side to the other side. At some point I realized that his movements weren’t quite normal, they felt stressed somehow. During all this, Elizabeth was sitting behind me doing the ‘baby talk’ thing again.
Curious, I shut the radio off so the only noise was now Elizabeth talking. While I noticed most of the talk was ‘baby talk’, I recognized a few names and quickly realized that she was telling a story about Gramma, Uncle Shorty, and Uncle Bookworm (my younger brothers). After shutting the radio off Colm promptly found the perfect listening position on the right side of my belly and proceeded to listen to Lizzie’s story. When she finished her story she immediately moved to their favorite lullaby “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star”. Within five minutes both of my babies were sound asleep.
I got home a short time later still amazed at the event that had just occurred. From that point on I have strived to make sure Colm is able to hear his big sister when she talks to him. Who knows, maybe they’re swapping secrets of the universe!