“Mommy you’re so beautful, but where are my polishes*?” This was the compliment I received when I arrived home from a relaxing day at the spa. It felt amazing receiving confirmation of what I was feeling inside. However, I thought about the question posed after the compliment for a while afterward. While it was cute to think I was raising a ‘girly-girl’, I realized that wasn’t all I offered her.
Recently, I joined Mary Kay, a cosmetics company that believes in empowering women. I joined this sisterhood not only because I love the products, but because I realized I could build a future for me and my children! After joining, my consultant approached me and told me how proud she was and what an amazing role model my children had. I asked what she meant, because for the last couple years I haven’t thought of myself as a great role model, more like the model that one wouldn’t want to copy!
She informed me that because of the choices I was making right now (not the choices of my past), my daughter would grow up with amazing self confidence and the ability to make good decisions about her future. Not only that, but she would “look damn good doing it!”
Coming home from the spa, I initially felt guilty for taking a day for myself. However, after hearing my daughter’s reaction I knew that she would never resent me for taking a ‘mommy day’ and in the long run, it would actually benefit her greatly! She will grow up knowing when to give and when to take, a balance that is imperative to maintaining positive, solid relationships. She will never feel guilty, like I did, for taking a day to rejuvenate her mind and body, but at the same time, she will know the importance of working hard to provide for her family.
I have finally found the greatest reward stemming from being a single mom working from home, and while spending time with my baby (soon to be babies!) is great, the greatest reward is still coming. I know it will present itself in my children’s confidence to do whatever they want and “look damn good doing it!”
*”Polishes” is toddler language for Nail Polish